Principle 7: Respond appropriately
It is important to avoid judging your client – eg, expressing shock or horror at what you hear. The client may have had judgmental responses previously, which may have made it harder for them to talk.
Responses that judge the actions of the client and indicate that they need to be better at budgeting can also reinforce things that the abuser may say to belittle them, Advisers have an opportunity to counter these messages and help rebuild their client’s confidence with money. This can, in turn, encourage them to reach out for help from other sources.
It is also important to give a professional response that shows understanding and lets the client know there are things you can do to help relieve the financial pressure they are under and help them regain control of their finances.
Remember that the abuser is controlling their behaviour and that an adviser can help empower them to regain control, rather than tell them what to do.